We would like to begin with a story…
One day, a man walked past a camp of elephants. Looking closer, he was surprised to see that these mighty animals weren’t held in cages or kept in chains. Rather, the only thing stopping them from escaping?
A thin rope tied from one of their legs to a simple pole in the ground. Confused as to why they didn’t just use their strength to break the rope, he asked the trainer why they weren’t attempting to run away. To this, the trainer replied.
“As baby elephants, we use the same system. But, at that age, the rope is strong enough to stop them from escaping. They grow up like this, believing they can never break the rope, so even as adults they stay put.”
In other words, these powerful, magnificent and intelligent elephants didn’t believe they could free themselves, so they never tried.
Each one of us has limiting beliefs. Narratives that we tell ourselves, about ourselves. Things that we have heard or seen or learned to be true. It’s what stops us from applying for a job, auditioning for an ensemble, talking to someone in fear of embarrassment – actually working towards that goal because we think we’re not strong, smart, funny, worthy enough. “I am not them, and therefore I cannot.” The reasons why not, if allowed to accumulate, can seem infinite. 颅颅
These thoughts string together to become the rope that, like the elephants, tie us captive.
The average person has 60,000 thoughts a day. That is around 42 thoughts a second, almost 22 million thoughts a year. If we received a dollar for each thought, we would have a weekly income of up to half a million. The average adult brain consumes around 100 times what a typical smartphone requires daily, yet we still seem to underestimate the power of our thoughts.
There are some things that are thought about far too often. Who everyone else wants you to be, what you don’t have, old mistakes, what you fear. When these types of thoughts dominate our minds, they are the factors we consider when we assess our self-worth, form relationships, and make decisions around our future. More and more threads thickening this rope that tethers and keeps us stagnant.
If you think of “successful” people – and not the glamourised, glittery endpoint of success that is often perpetuated – but individuals who define achievement by doing rather than having, we pose that none of these people were born without doubt or fear. They just found a reason to overcome their limiting beliefs.
Malala Yousafzai, Nobel Peace Prize winner and advocate for girls’ education in her memoir wrote, “We were scared, but our fear was not as strong as our courage.”
We are fortunate, to attend a school that aims to foster courage and nurture it in our values. Courage, the ability to do something that frightens you, that allows us to free ourselves from these ropes – and soar upwards.
Courage is different for each of us.
It’s the sacrifice of a parent, who aspires for their child to have more and to see more than they ever could. Courage is choosing to risk something dear to you for the good of another. It is choosing the path less travelled. The path that is rocky and uncertain – because you just might make something incredible happen.
Not aspiring necessarily for the glamorous and the comfortable, but for the beautiful and the real. Courage comes in choosing the hard thing.
John F. Kennedy, in his 1962 address at Rice University concerning the USA’s efforts in space exploration said, “We choose to go to the moon and do the other things, not because they are easy, but because they are hard.”
It isn’t always going to be easy, and it certainly won’t always be pretty, but perhaps that is the very point. Our world tends to view success as a sort of pristine, glass bubble of perfect people leading perfect lives. Untouchable, even perhaps, unattainable. But consider that reaching the lofty heights of the moon would not mean near as much without the struggle and endurance required to get there.
Facing the difficult things – the things that scare you the most – is where you will find your greatest achievements.
Those ropes are as weak as you are strong. Take strength in knowing that the only person in this entire world who can achieve your full potential, is you.